September 2026
Seek, Discover, Connect
Improvements
- NEW Virtual Assistant to help you navigate our website, making it easier to find what you are looking for.
- “Events you may want to attend”, now highlighted at the top of the parties and events page.
- Most liked photos and videos added to Popularity wall, replacing the number of photos and videos posted.
- “Recommended for you” is our new profile matching program that will give you recommendations based on certain criteria. Find new potential dates at the top of your feed.
Coming soon…
- SDC Stories let you post photos and videos that stay live for just 24 hours — perfect for spontaneous updates, behind-the-scenes moments, or anything you want to share without it living on your profile forever!
SDC Webinars
Check out our Webinars page on the menu. Find all the amazing FREE educational webinars from our SDC Contributors, who take the time to offer these interesting sessions to the members of SDC, all in one place.
Learn more about swinging, hotwifing, sex, and relationships from our experts!
Check out upcoming webinars, and watch videos of past educational livestreams.
Present your own educational Live Stream on SDC — Apply here TODAY!
SDC Book Club
Welcome to the SDC Book Club, where we feature exciting books recommended by lifestyle-related Authors, Educators, and even SDC Members.
This month, check out Hotwife Chronicles: Beginnings by Michael Stewart
After thirty years of marriage, Shane and Amrie have built a life together filled with love, loyalty, and shared history. They know each other’s habits, fears, and dreams or at least they think they do.
Beneath the comfort of their long relationship lies a conversation neither of them has ever fully dared to have. What begins as curiosity soon evolves into a journey that challenges everything they thought they knew about desire, trust, and the boundaries of marriage.
As hidden fantasies come into the open, Shane and Amrie find themselves navigating unfamiliar emotional territory where passion, vulnerability, jealousy, and intimacy collide. Together, they must decide whether exploring their deepest desires will strengthen the bond they've spent a lifetime building or risk changing it forever.
Told through alternating perspectives, this provocative and emotionally charged novel explores the complexities of long-term love, the courage required to be truly honest with a partner, and the transformative power of embracing who we are beneath the roles we play.
A compelling story of marriage, desire, trust, and self-discovery, this book invites readers into an intimate journey where love is tested, boundaries are challenged, and nothing remains quite the same.
Also check out The Open Book by Mike & Julie
After twenty-five years of marriage, two kids, and careers they loved, Mike and Julie walked into the swinger lifestyle — carefully, deliberately, with rules.
What followed was funnier, darker, and more revealing than either of them expected.
The Open Book is the true story of their five years inside the lifestyle: the clubs and resorts, the strangers who disappeared and the friends who stayed, the nights that brought them closer and the ones that nearly ended everything.
But here’s what makes this book different from every other memoir in the category: they both tell it. Told in alternating voices, Mike and Julie recount the same events — and disagree. Again and again, they walked out of the same room carrying two completely different versions of what had just happened. This book gives you both.
Unflinching about jealousy, trauma, drinking, anger, and desire, this is neither a guide nor a warning. It’s an honest account of a long marriage pushed to its limit — and what it took for two people who had every reason to walk away to keep choosing each other.
He remembers it one way. She remembers it another.
That’s the whole story.
Contests
Congratulations to FITHORNY2 for winning the Best Little Black Outfit photo contest and to MADEFORLOVE for winning the Fantasy Becomes Reality writing contest.
Check out the latest contests with chances to WIN superb prizes! Prizes provided by:
Sea Mountain Nude Resorts & Lifestyle Swinger Club, DV8 Dare Games, Orgie, Malibu Strings, Bijoux Indiscrets, Morgan Reynolds, Florida Lifestyler and STD Hero.
Click the links below to access, enter, or VOTE for the latest contests:
New – “Unicorn Chronicles” – Writing Contest
Current - Only One Prop - Photo Contest
Voting Underway – Bed, Sweat & Tears – Video Contest
SDC Shop
From a relaxed evening at home to a party or a night at the club: the collection in our shop adds that little something extra to your look. Choose from items like T-shirts, tops, dresses, bathrobes, and bath towels featuring the SDC logo, and personalize them with your own profile name.
You’ll also find plenty of other fun accessories in the shop, such as SDC bracelets, nipple covers, boat flags, stickers, and other promotional items. Great for yourself, but also perfect to take along to a party, the club, or simply to enjoy at home.
Complete your look with your own personal calling card! Give that fun encounter at the club an extra boost and make it easy for people to find you on SDC. Convenient, personal, and reflecting your own unique style—much more fun than just exchanging phone numbers!
Discover the SDC Shop now and complete your look!
Fall is all for it…
Summer’s winding down soon, but who says the fun has to end as well?
Before everyone settles back into routines, there’s still time for one or more spontaneous weekends. The kind where old friends come closer and new faces become your latest favorites. It’s time to squeeze in one more sexy getaway with your people. One more time to let the night take you wherever it wants.
Because let’s be honest, nobody ever regrets the trip they said yes to. They regret the one that didn’t happen because you talked yourselves out of it.
Don’t sleep on it, just check out our BNB pages and pick a nice one! The best experiences almost always start with just saying yes and meeting sexy people along the way.
Cruise News
November 08 - 15, 2027 - 7 Nights - St. Maarten & St. Kitts
Saints & Sinners Cruise
Seven Nights. The World's Largest Ship. No Limits.
Get ready to give in to your most wicked desires on the Saints + Sinners Cruise. Departing from Miami for seven lust-fueled nights, this full-ship takeover invites you to choose your halo or your horns and sail boldly between the heavenly and the sinful.
Expect sunlit indulgence worthy of a saint, after-dark mischief that would make the devil blush and an atmosphere where every couple decides just how virtuous or how deliciously sinful their journey will be.
Book NOW!
FEATURED BUSINESS
Hotwife Jewelry
Hotwife Jewelry was created to help you stand out and be recognized—whether by curious admirers or like-minded individuals—through stunning jewelry, accessories, and custom pieces. We prioritize your discretion, privacy, and respect, allowing you to express yourself confidently and stylishly in any setting.
Our jewelry is uniquely designed to reflect personality and lifestyle, blending style with a high-end jewelry finish that lets you fully embrace yourself.
We prioritize exceptional quality, crafting every piece using premium noble metals and hypoallergenic materials, ensuring beauty, comfort, and durability.
✔ Worldwide shipping
✔ Discreet packaging
FEATURED WEBINAR HOST
Maria Del Sol Tamargo, EROTICGODMOTHER
Sol is the creator of The Erotic Godmother, an Artist of the Human Experience devoted to awakening Eros as the creative life force behind love, beauty, vitality, and human connection.
She designs immersive initiations in extraordinary natural sanctuaries where fine art, cinematic storytelling, photography, intentional ritual, and the intelligence of nature become living works of art.
Every experience invites individuals and couples to cultivate deeper intimacy, embodied presence, creative vitality, and a profound remembrance of what it means to be fully alive.
Playa del Carmen Mexico based, available worldwide. Artist-in-Residence.
Available for luxury resorts, private retreats, festivals, conscious communities, wellness destinations, intimate celebrations, and curated gatherings worldwide.
The Erotic Godmother designs bespoke experiences where fine art, nature, sensual intelligence, and cinematic storytelling become unforgettable moments of human connection.
Every appearance is custom-created for the people, the place, and the purpose.
Join Sol for her next exclusive SDC webinar - see her upcoming events here.
FEATURED EXPERT
Throuple Talk Podcast
Throuple Talk Podcast is a roundtable style podcast hosted by Liv, Char, and Josh, a live-in, committed, polyamorous throuple.
Their mission is to bring help, hope, and community to those seeking meaningful non-monogamous relationships by sharing the wisdom they’ve gathered as a result of our personal, real-world experience, as well as interviews with their guests.
Through open and honest conversations, and sharing the story of our egalitarian plural marriage, they aim to change societal norms by proving that monogamy is not the only healthy relationship structure.
Whether you are already in a relationship that is open, polyamorous, or somewhere in between, or are still just dipping your toes in the water to see if non-monogamy is even right for you, their podcast can be your go-to resource for information and encouragement.
POPULAR
Flirting Tips for Swinger Couples and Singles in The Lifestyle
In the lifestyle, attraction is a language. Here’s how to learn to flirt with other swingers.
Flirting in the swinging lifestyle isn't the same game people play at a regular bar. The stakes are different, the subtext is louder, and everyone in the room already knows why they're there. That changes things in a good way.
You're not trying to figure out whether someone's interested in the abstract sense. You're reading whether there's chemistry, whether the vibe matches, and whether the people in front of you are the kind of couple or single you'd actually want to spend a night with. That's a different skill, and it rewards people who can stay playful without losing their confidence. READ MORE...
EVENT SPOTLIGHT
Stags Night
Bangkok, Thailand
Saturday, September 5th
The boys are taking centre stage. Stags Night celebrates confidence, friendship, competition, and the social side of the community with an evening designed to encourage interaction, conversation, and a little healthy rivalry. Expect games, challenges, laughs, and plenty of opportunities to meet both familiar faces and new arrivals.
While the spotlight may be on the gentlemen, everyone is invited to join the fun. Whether you're part of a couple, attending solo, or simply curious to see what happens when the lads think they're in charge for the evening, expect a lively atmosphere and plenty of memorable moments throughout the night.
SDC Wicked in White
Miami, FL
Saturday, September 5th
Doors Open at 10:00pm
Join SDC & Miami Velvet as we celebrate a night just for COUPLES AND SINGLE LADIES!
We are offering a FREE ONE DAY Membership for Couples On The SDC Guest List All Night Tonight
SDC.com Couples with screen names on the guest list are just $135 at the door!
DRESS IN THEME AND RECEIVE $15 OFF AT THE DOOR
Strict Dress Code Enforced
BYOB Private Club
Single Gents Welcome Except Saturdays
Join the Miami Velvet SDC Community for more information about upcoming Miami Velvet events and specials!
The Table
London, UK
Friday, 18th September
The Table is an invitation-only dinner hosted by The Group, created for open-minded, professional couples who value connection as much as craft. Each evening brings together a small number of like-minded people in the lifestyle for an experience where conversation flows easily, laughter comes naturally, and chemistry often finds its moment.
It isn’t about food, though the food is exquisite.
It isn’t about wine, though the pairings are exceptional.
It’s about the quiet electricity that happens when the right people meet in the right room.
The Table is where that begins — a first encounter with the kind of company and connection that define The Group and, for a fortunate few, lead to unforgettable experiences at The Resort.
Attendance is by invitation only.
To request yours, visit: https://the-group.co/dinners
Official SDC Meet & Greet at XCLUSIV
Houston, TX
Friday, September 18th
XCLUSIV Lifestyle proudly presents an official SDC Meet & Greet!
Join us for a relaxed, welcoming evening designed for SDC members, lifestyle couples, singles, and curious newcomers to meet, mingle, and make new connections inside Houston’s private, upscale lifestyle venue.
Exclusive SDC guest offers:
- Complimentary two-month XCLUSIV membership for every attendee
- Half-price admission for the remainder of the evening for guests who choose to stay
7 PM–10 PM
XCLUSIV Lifestyle
9635 N. Houston Rosslyn Rd., Houston, TX 77088
832-275-1807 or 832-845-7194
Fully on-premise | BYOB | Members-only establishment
Add yourself to the official SDC guest list today!
Private. Curated. Elevated.
Consent is key. Consent is sexy.
Stigma Party - Nostalgia!
Orlando, FL
Saturday, September 19th
Come dressed in your favorite theme, and vote on future party themes!
This party will be pre-paid only, as we anticipate selling out. A QR code for entry will be sent one week before the event.
UNHOLY
Barcelona, Spain
Friday, 25 September
A night of pure temptation... Imperial Club invites you to transcend the boundaries of the conventional at UNHOLY, an evening designed for open-minded individuals seeking to explore new dimensions of desire.
We've created the ideal setting for those who enjoy the art of seduction, the exchange of glances, and no-strings-attached encounters.
A safe, discreet, and vibrant environment, a night to meet like-minded people and enjoy an atmosphere charged with sensuality.
Let yourself be carried away by the rhythm of the night, the curiosity, and the energy of a club transformed to ignite the senses. Ready to enjoy the experience? --
Dress code: Elegant, all black.
www.imperialbcn.com
APOCALYPTO - INTERNATIONAL SDC OFFICIAL PARTY
Rome, Italy
Friday 25 & Saturday 26 September
9:00 PM - 4:00 AM
APOCALYPTO
When everything burns, only desire remains
This is not a simple weekend.
It is the end of a journey and the beginning of something that can no longer be forgotten.
After Nymera and In Da Jungle, Apocalypto is the moment when everything that has been built explodes.
The Caveau trilogy reaches its highest, most intense, most irrevocable point.
For two nights only, Friday and Saturday, the Eternal City becomes the theater of an international appointment.
Couples arriving from various capitals of the world will come together under the Caveau signature to experience what usually remains only imagined.
There will be no room for half-measures.
Only presence, desire and the awareness of being part of something rare.
Those who will be inside will remember.
Those who remain outside will only be able to tell themselves what could have been.
Limited places.
The reservation is already the first step towards the fire.
Entrance option:
From 9:00 PM, Caveau full Experience
- Libertine Party
- Caveau Act
- Glass of Franciacorta
- Gourmet finger food buffet
- Caveauette, dedicated Car Valet
Reservation mandatory
www.caveau.club
FREAKSHOW Naughty School Girl
Parsippany, NJ
Friday, October 2nd
8pm - 5am
Fall is among us and that means one of everyone’s favorite holiday, HALLOWEEN! All guests are advised that your experience is greater by having a room in our host hotel for both nights as Friday night is just as extreme as Saturday. Further, if you are the type to connect, Friday night is a GREAT way (especially if you are new) to make new friends.
Hotel Room Pricing:
Doubles/Kings: $119 plus taxes
Suites: $169 plus taxes
Jacuzzi Suites: $179 plus taxes
We will also be featuring our "Fetish Party Floor." Are you more into the BDSM aspect of it all? If so, when you make your hotel reservations, advise the front desk you would like to be on the 3rd floor.
This floor gives the kinksters their own space as the fetish room will be on this floor and we encourage guests to bring their own apparatus to share with each other.
*Room Policy: We assign rooms on a first-call/first-served basis. A hotel room is not required (for party-only guests).
THIS EVENT IS A COMPLETE HOTEL TAKEOVER. It means no vanillas lurking - No outside conferences - Just all-lifestyle MEMBERS.