How to Avoid Spiraling When Rejected
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You WILL get rejected as a swinger, and that's OK! Here’s how to avoid spiraling.
You dressed up and smelled good. You flirted and engaged with lots of people, giving them your full attention. You were respectful and honored consent. And still, they passed. Ugh.
Before you let your brain start writing horror stories about your worth, remember this:
- Attraction isn’t always mutual. You’ve been on both sides.
- Rejection now doesn't ALWAYS mean never; chemistry can evolve. Some noes are about timing, not desirability. Don’t ask again after being rejected, but know that THEY may approach you if there’s another time that’s better for them.

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Instead of asking “What’s wrong with me?” try asking “What’s next for me?” Swinging typically isn’t about finding a forever partner; it’s about making fun connections. And there are LOTS of opportunities to make connections if you keep your mind open to it!
Keep this post in a safe spot for the next time your ego takes a hit. We’ve all been there.
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