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The Choices You Make For Your Sex Life
We make choices every single day. We make choices about our health habits, our work life, our family life, our social fabric, and in our sexual lives.
Making the Wrong Choices
I was inspired by this article that talked about how this husband made a spreadsheet about all the excuses his wife made to not have sex with him. Clearly, this isn’t exactly the way you want to go about communicating with your partner about the lack of sex you’re having, but I thought about how it brought up some interesting points for me.
Problem: She clearly doesn’t have the desire to have sex with him. What the reason is, he will never know unless he asks. Most of the time, it’s probably going to be something that is a deeper issue or it could be that he’s just not good in bed. It could also be that she has a lack of desire for sex with him and maybe there are some other health or underlying issues on her part.
Answer: They need to have a serious heart-to-heart conversation about their sex life and see if there’s something else besides sex that is affecting the relationship. They need to know what their sex life should look like and come up with common answers that would please them both.
Making the Right Choices
But overall, what everything comes down to are the choices that we make in our lives. It’s the choices that we make for our health for our work for our families for our friends, and ultimately for our sexual lives. If you have the choice to have spectacular sex, why would you deny that? So we need to think about that. Why would you deny spectacular sex? If it’s not spectacular sex, why isn’t it spectacular sex and what can you do to change that? Are you doing your part and making the effort to change it to make sure that you can maintain a healthy and happy sex life?
Every choice that we make has a reward or a consequence. Most people would like to have the reward over the consequence, but a lot of us, especially women, find it too easy to say “no” to sex (provided that it’s not giving you problems). Most of the time when I’m consulting with women who are saying “no” to sex, they honestly might have low desire, but they are often forgetting what sex feels like. Once they say “yes” to sex, they always come to me with: “I guess I just forgot how pleasurable it could be.”
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